Tag: relationships

Identifying Triggers and Shame to Short-Circuit Automated Reactions, Defensiveness, and Trauma Responses

March 17, 2025

Last week, I posted a silly video to YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram, wherein I talked about how sometimes I’ll hear a song out of the blue, and it’ll trigger a strong emotional response in me. In this video, I specifically talked about “All That She Wants” by Ace of Base, and how I only needed … More Identifying Triggers and Shame to Short-Circuit Automated Reactions, Defensiveness, and Trauma Responses

The Patterns I’ve Seen and Lessons I’ve Learned as I Heal My Fearful Avoidant Attachment

March 11, 2025

I have spent a lot of the past year or so learning about attachment styles and how they impact relationships. It started with me wanting to try and understand other people in my life, but it became more of a journey of self-discovery, where I finally landed on realising that I had a disorganised attachment … More The Patterns I’ve Seen and Lessons I’ve Learned as I Heal My Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Tears Stream Down My Face on My Mother’s 70th Birthday

March 4, 2025

Today is a good time for me to re-share this picture of my Mum from a little over 20 years ago, shortly before she turned 50. Mum should’ve been 70 today, but instead her life was cut far too short due to pancreatic cancer, which she was diagnosed with not long after her 50th birthday. … More Tears Stream Down My Face on My Mother’s 70th Birthday

One of the Best Things You Can Do to Heal from a Toxic Relationship

January 7, 2025

Have you ever felt at a loss after the end of a toxic relationship? Tried to sort out and sift through the details of what happened? Whether you ended the relationship, or were the one broken up with, knowing the relationship was toxic doesn’t preclude you from experiencing some level of grief for the end … More One of the Best Things You Can Do to Heal from a Toxic Relationship

Thankful for the Friends who Support my Livestreaming Efforts

November 28, 2024

This year, to date, I have gone live on my YouTube channel 17 times, and will hopefully do at least a couple more before the end of the year. I don’t have much of an audience, and in fact rarely have anyone watching live these days. It would be nice to have a bigger audience, … More Thankful for the Friends who Support my Livestreaming Efforts

Attempting to End the Quest for External Validation, Once and for All

November 17, 2024

As a teenager, I felt like getting my mum’s approval was the most important thing for me. It didn’t feel automatic or unconditional, but I loved making her feel proud. I felt like she had certain expectations of me, and if I didn’t live up to them, I wouldn’t be “good enough.” She was a … More Attempting to End the Quest for External Validation, Once and for All

The Extraordinary Representation of Extraordinary Attorney Woo

September 14, 2022

Content warning: mentions of suicide, abuse, and contains spoilers for the Korean show Extraordinary Attorney Woo on Netflix. I want to make it accessible even for those of you who haven’t seen it, but hopefully won’t be revealing too many plot spoilers that would ruin your enjoyment of the show should you choose to watch … More The Extraordinary Representation of Extraordinary Attorney Woo

The Value of Critical Thinking While Watching The Legend of Korra with Children, and Discussing Relationship Dynamics

March 10, 2021

Content warning: discussion of emotional abuse, manipulation, trauma, and other similar/related topics.Word count: approx. 18,000 (pace yourself). After making our way through Avatar: The Last Airbender, my kids and I moved onto The Legend of Korra—a rewatch for my 14yo and me, who watched it Aug-Oct 2020, but the first time for my 10yo. I’ve … More The Value of Critical Thinking While Watching The Legend of Korra with Children, and Discussing Relationship Dynamics