Tag: mental health

Identifying Triggers and Shame to Short-Circuit Automated Reactions, Defensiveness, and Trauma Responses

March 17, 2025

Last week, I posted a silly video to YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram, wherein I talked about how sometimes I’ll hear a song out of the blue, and it’ll trigger a strong emotional response in me. In this video, I specifically talked about “All That She Wants” by Ace of Base, and how I only needed … More Identifying Triggers and Shame to Short-Circuit Automated Reactions, Defensiveness, and Trauma Responses

The Patterns I’ve Seen and Lessons I’ve Learned as I Heal My Fearful Avoidant Attachment

March 11, 2025

I have spent a lot of the past year or so learning about attachment styles and how they impact relationships. It started with me wanting to try and understand other people in my life, but it became more of a journey of self-discovery, where I finally landed on realising that I had a disorganised attachment … More The Patterns I’ve Seen and Lessons I’ve Learned as I Heal My Fearful Avoidant Attachment

One of the Best Things You Can Do to Heal from a Toxic Relationship

January 7, 2025

Have you ever felt at a loss after the end of a toxic relationship? Tried to sort out and sift through the details of what happened? Whether you ended the relationship, or were the one broken up with, knowing the relationship was toxic doesn’t preclude you from experiencing some level of grief for the end … More One of the Best Things You Can Do to Heal from a Toxic Relationship

Attempting to End the Quest for External Validation, Once and for All

November 17, 2024

As a teenager, I felt like getting my mum’s approval was the most important thing for me. It didn’t feel automatic or unconditional, but I loved making her feel proud. I felt like she had certain expectations of me, and if I didn’t live up to them, I wouldn’t be “good enough.” She was a … More Attempting to End the Quest for External Validation, Once and for All