Think about the kinds of people you want to have in your life. Do you prefer the people who support your dreams and talents, or do you prefer the ones who constantly criticize you with the excuse that they’re pushing you to be “realistic” or “you won’t improve without learning what you’re doing wrong”? Now … More Be a Cheerleader and Reduce Interaction with Permanent Nay Sayers
The first time #MeToo was considerably trending, when everyone was talking about it, and it was all over the news media, I was not in a position where I felt like I could publicly discuss my experiences. Since then, I’ve publicly confronted someone who was abusive toward me (offline), had other survivors not believe me … More #MeToo Has Been Trending Again
I’ve been writing about and sharing my life online on-and-off since I first got a LiveJournal account around 20 years ago (sometime in the year 2001). One of the things I liked about LiveJournal was that you could filter your audience because there was an actual community there, and you could learn about others and … More When I Blog and Use Social Media, I Write for Myself and My Friends… Though I Have a Wider Audience
This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while. I consider myself an honest person, and value it pretty highly in myself as well as in other people. However, much of my relationship experience has involved more private men. They certainly didn’t fit the stereotype of the man who brags about their … More Honesty is the Best Policy… But Balancing it with Privacy is a Challenge (for Me)
I have at least 4 draft blog posts of various states of written-ness. What I prioritise can change at the flip of a light switch depending on the day. I did intend to blog more, once I returned here in October, but other things came up and were prioritised first. Maybe I’ll eventually get back … More To Sum Up the End of 2020
In my last post, I talked a little about how I was moving away from polyamory, which had been my relationship style between 2009-2019. Ten years is a long time to learn things about relationships, even if you’re not dating much in that time. I already wrote a decent amount about the complications that led … More Lessons Learned from Former Relationships
Long time, no see! Welcome to my new website and blog. To the right, you can see me sheltering-in-place in my backyard in April 2020. The expression was a result of looking towards the sun, but it could’ve also easily be assumed a result of dealing with a challenging time in my life whilst also … More The “New” Me
Sometimes people have wondered how I can be so open and public about my life – certain things that they would see as too private to share with the world. Part of it is my autism – I don’t have the same personal boundaries that neurotypical people have. But my primary motivation these days is … More Finding the Balance Between Empowerment and Judgement: My Personal Struggle With Internalised Misogyny
I spend a decent amount of time thinking about dating and relationships. I don’t know where this stems from – whether it’s society’s effect on my life, suggesting that my value is only as much as what I am to other people/if I’m in a relationship. If it’s because during my adolescence, no one wanted … More (Polyamorous) Romantic Relationships and Dating While Autistic
I’m not a big follower of music, and songs I’m familiar with will more often remind me of movies, TV shows, or specific people than me being familiar with the music on its own. I think most people have “a song” that they associate with their partner. I have songs that, whenever I hear them, … More Songs That Remind Me of Significant Others
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