I have been fairly absent from my blog this year, but this post should address some of the reasons why. 2025 has been a rough year for me. After being laid off from my job in August last year, it has been a struggle for me to figure out what to do next. With the … More 2025 In Review
Today is a good time for me to re-share this picture of my Mum from a little over 20 years ago, shortly before she turned 50. Mum should’ve been 70 today, but instead her life was cut far too short due to pancreatic cancer, which she was diagnosed with not long after her 50th birthday. … More Tears Stream Down My Face on My Mother’s 70th Birthday
As a teenager, I felt like getting my mum’s approval was the most important thing for me. It didn’t feel automatic or unconditional, but I loved making her feel proud. I felt like she had certain expectations of me, and if I didn’t live up to them, I wouldn’t be “good enough.” She was a … More Attempting to End the Quest for External Validation, Once and for All
Think about the kinds of people you want to have in your life. Do you prefer the people who support your dreams and talents, or do you prefer the ones who constantly criticize you with the excuse that they’re pushing you to be “realistic” or “you won’t improve without learning what you’re doing wrong”? Now … More Be a Cheerleader and Reduce Interaction with Permanent Nay Sayers
The first time #MeToo was considerably trending, when everyone was talking about it, and it was all over the news media, I was not in a position where I felt like I could publicly discuss my experiences. Since then, I’ve publicly confronted someone who was abusive toward me (offline), had other survivors not believe me … More #MeToo Has Been Trending Again
I’ve been writing about and sharing my life online on-and-off since I first got a LiveJournal account around 20 years ago (sometime in the year 2001). One of the things I liked about LiveJournal was that you could filter your audience because there was an actual community there, and you could learn about others and … More When I Blog and Use Social Media, I Write for Myself and My Friends… Though I Have a Wider Audience
This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while. I consider myself an honest person, and value it pretty highly in myself as well as in other people. However, much of my relationship experience has involved more private men. They certainly didn’t fit the stereotype of the man who brags about their … More Honesty is the Best Policy… But Balancing it with Privacy is a Challenge (for Me)
