Whilst I’ve been unemployed during the pandemic, the excess free time has afforded me opportunities to think more deeply about certain issues that impact my life. Especially considering 2020 was an election year, and we saw how social media impacted the 2016 election. Social media has been my primary way of connecting with friends for … More The Social Dilemma, Social Engineering, and Ethics in Social Media
I’ve been writing about and sharing my life online on-and-off since I first got a LiveJournal account around 20 years ago (sometime in the year 2001). One of the things I liked about LiveJournal was that you could filter your audience because there was an actual community there, and you could learn about others and … More When I Blog and Use Social Media, I Write for Myself and My Friends… Though I Have a Wider Audience
This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while. I consider myself an honest person, and value it pretty highly in myself as well as in other people. However, much of my relationship experience has involved more private men. They certainly didn’t fit the stereotype of the man who brags about their … More Honesty is the Best Policy… But Balancing it with Privacy is a Challenge (for Me)
This idea that we shouldn’t talk politics or religion because it’s impolite and just leads to disagreements and arguments is off-putting to me. Yes, that happens, but the opposite can also be true—when we are able to discuss these topics with an open mind, then it can become the foundation needed for understanding people better, especially when we can find the common ground between us. … More “Don’t Talk Politics or Religion” is B.S.
In my last post, I talked a little about how I was moving away from polyamory, which had been my relationship style between 2009-2019. Ten years is a long time to learn things about relationships, even if you’re not dating much in that time. I already wrote a decent amount about the complications that led … More Lessons Learned from Former Relationships
Long time, no see! Welcome to my new website and blog. To the right, you can see me sheltering-in-place in my backyard in April 2020. The expression was a result of looking towards the sun, but it could’ve also easily be assumed a result of dealing with a challenging time in my life whilst also … More The “New” Me
My latest book, Marked by Scorn: An Anthology Featuring Non-Traditional Relationships is officially released this Sunday on July 31st. The ebook is available for pre-order from Amazon. I had a conversation with my husband last month about how people are probably assuming that as the editor of a collection like this, I must be polyamorous1. … More Coming Out with Marked by Scorn: An Anthology Featuring Non-Traditional Relationships
Today marks the 5th anniversary of my move to Malaysia. On November 8th, 2008, I left my home and some family in Australia, and with my son I followed my husband to Kuala Lumpur, who had arrived a couple of weeks earlier. 5 years in the country, and now that my best friend here is … More Things to Consider When Meeting Expatriates, Immigrants, or International Students in Your Country
As a writer who has a particular interest in going the indie publishing route, I’ve spent a lot of time reading other blogs and articles about what you should and shouldn’t do, and it gets to a point of confusion, especially when you encounter contradictions. But the one thing everyone seems to agree on is … More On marketing, social media, and popularity
If you were unfortunate enough to try to access this web site/blog any time in the last two weeks or so, you would have noticed that all of the usual content was inaccessible due to a hacker compromising it. I was in India when I learned of the hack, and still had a little under … More Back online!